In my last blog, I advised you on what you should do when negotiating with your boss or with anyone with higher authority or greater power than you have. In this blog, I’m sharing a few things you should avoid doing.
Examples of what to say:
Examples of what to say:
Examples of what to say:
Keep your BATNA, (your BEST Alternative to A Negotiated Agreement) with your boss in your back pocket. Raising your BATNA is likely to be seen as a threat, and it’s not a good idea to threaten anyone, let alone your boss. If you raise it at all, it should be near the end of the negotiation, after you’ve exhausted the other six elements, interests, options legitimacy, communication and relationship. If you decide to raise it, do so carefully and constructively. As a general rule, don’t mention your BATNA unless it’s being underestimated and you know it’s better than your boss understands, i.e., “I want to continue to work for this company, however, the other company has made me an offer for more money than I’m currently making. With college tuition to take care of and a mortgage to pay off, I may be forced to consider their offer, if we can’t find a mutually agreeable solution.” Never discuss your alternatives unless you are willing to follow through on them. Otherwise you develop the reputation for bluffing and you won’t be taken seriously.
Avoid making the negotiation a power struggle; you are setting up a win/lose negotiation and the person most likely to lose will be you. Instead, frame the issue as a problem to be solved, or an idea to be explored. Don’t walk in with answers, walk in with good questions and be open to persuasion. Acknowledge any legitimate concerns your boss has, tie those to common interests you both share and then brainstorm options for possible solutions.
Finally, when you have to deliver news you know your boss doesn’t want to hear, but which, as a responsible employee, you must deliver, soften the blow. Begin by sharing your concern about the impact of the information, i.e., “I’m concerned that you may hear what I’m about to say as an attack, that is not my intent. I want you to be aware of perceptions that can get in the way of your achieving your goals.” Ideally, you would address these issues before there is a problem. At the very beginning of your working relationship, talk to your boss about how he/she wants to hear bad news. Ask them about how you can build a sense of trust and integrity between you.
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